For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11

Sunday, December 27, 2009

An Interesting Conversation...

We took Nolan out to eat for his birthday yesterday. Our waiter started an interesting conversation...wait for it, here it comes....."Are They All Yours?"..."Yes, They are all Ours!"(didn't feel like elaborating or that it was any of his business). He leaves to fill our drink order and returns... wait, wait...it gets so much better, "Do you foster or something?" "NO,They are all Ours"..."Oh, so you adopted or something like that".."Yes, 3 of our children are adopted"...no getting past the fact that they look different from us and our 3 bio children. But wait... the conversation takes an even more interesting turn....
Waiter: "I'm Adopted....great when I was a little kid, when I got older,Not so much!" "I found my birth mom about 4 yrs ago, and we moved here together."
Brad and I just nod our head... and the whole time I'm thinking...He is saying this out loud in front of my chidren...Mandy is very aware and questions about her birth mother all the time. My kiddos will likely never know their birth parents... still all I do is nod my head. He is telling us this ...Why?...still all I do is nod my head. He obviously has issues about his adoption. I want to ask more questions, but not my business and my kiddos are present....still all I do is nod my head. The conversation doesn't end there...
We are about at the end of our meal and our waiter returns to clear dishes. He looks at Mia and Levi and says,"Are these two brother and sister?".... "What?!!!!"
I reply, "Of course they are brother and sister; however, they aren't biologically related"
"What?! What?! What?!"
....still all I did was leave the restaurant shaking my head!

5 comments:

Susan said...

You all always have the most interesting restaurant experiences!

Howard and Kim said...

makes me want to bang my head on the wall...

Kim said...

oh my goodness Kim...i cringe when people ask me if Vivi and Max are really brother and sister....seriously, do people think they are deaf or are they just stupid? Bless your heart...Mandy is older and understands everything that was said....I agree with Kim H. she said it perfectly...."makes me want to bang my head on the wall".

Love you guys,
Kim

Jill and Rick said...

Lovely. We're still getting tons of "are they sisters?" and "no, I mean are they REAL sisters?" I have the same standard answer of "They are now!" and it boggles the mind that people just don't get it.

& for this young man to go into his own details like that, in front of your kiddos, SO inappropriate!

Glad you went to Sams later!

Jill

Just Me said...

We get lots of these questions too. There are times when I can tell people are just being nosy that I just simply say with a smile "Yes, they are" and leave off the "now" part. How wonderful it would be if everyone could see the world in a non-racial way.